Why Monogamy Relationship is Not an Answer for All People

Here I will not divulge polygamy other than polygyny. In this writing, I will share my thought about polygyny without Scripture reference involvement. Perhaps, after I could and finished gathering more references about polygamy from Scripture. I will update this blog discourse.

Some logic behind polygyny:

1. The age of gestation and conceive a biological baby.
   After 30’s women will gradually be deprived to conceive a baby. Therefore if their husband is the person who has a high achievement for humanity, it is not a falsehood when we would like to have him having biological offspring that will carry on their DNA. We can say if the person as bright and smart as Albert Einstein, Nikola Tesla, Mozart. Although there is no guarantee that the biological offspring that carry their DNA would have been as bright and smart as their father and able to elevate humanity. However, this action could help us to lead another study for the reason of their forefather brightness.
   
2. Having another wife to be a legal surrogate mother that all parties can be benefited from the legal polygyny relationship. With the consent and mutual understanding of all parties, the polygyny can be conducted. When a woman due to any circumstance unable to carry her own biological child, but she would like to have a child that also carries her DNA and her husband’s DNA. It is logical to have a surrogate mother. However, if the surrogate mother is acted as just based on financial service, this will be not fair for her. Furthermore, we shall be known that the surrogate mother also having a biological bond with the fetus she carries on her womb. Therefore, to have a legal surrogate mother that receives love and support from the other party is necessary.
   

Why you are not recommended to have polygyny!
The polygamy issue and discourse are proned to be surrounded by Muslims. Here I will not address the polygyny discourse based on Quran yet. I will elaborate on the logical reason why you (man) should not thinking about polygyny.

1. You are just a regular man without any significant contribution to humanity and the world. If you just an average and a mediocre man with so so talent, so so wealth, so so brain, so so face, why on earth you should thinking to acquire polygyny household. You just make an excuse to have sex just over your lust.
2. You consider yourself as “ulama” or a pious person. So you feel you will be able to lead a household with more than one wife. You feel you are the person who will give a contribution to the world by lead an example of a polygyny household. And you feel that your polygyny act will lead you to be closer to God. Here I will say that your wife is the poor woman to have you as her husband.